Abortion/Adoption

I am so sorry that you find yourself in this very stressful and difficult position. I want you to know that I care for you and for your baby.

19 week foetus sucking her thumb

I am committed to helping you in any way I can:

The information on this website is designed to give you confidence that you can raise your child.
If you live in the Christchurch, (New Zealand) area I can put you in contact with people who can help you.
I may be available to be your support person during the pregnancy, birth, and newborn stage, if this what you need, and you live locally (I am in Rangiora).
I may be available to be your support person during your pregnancy, birth, and through the adoption process, if this is what you need, and you live locally.

My sixth pregnancy miscarried at 17 weeks. The baby had stopped growing at around 13 weeks. When my little boy was born I held his tiny body in my hand and marvelled at how perfect he was. The tears fell as I pondered the fact that so many healthy babies just about his size are aborted every day, little lives torn from the safety of their own mother’s wombs. I determined that I would try to save some of these babies from being aborted.

I want to encourage you to consider that there are alternatives to abortion. Abortion will kill your son or daughter. You will live with the regret of that decision for the rest of your life. Recent research has discovered a link between abortion and later mental health issues. It is ironic, therefore, that most abortions performed in New Zealand are done under the excuse of being for the mother’s mental health.

I would suggest to you that for your own mental health, it would be far better to go through with the pregnancy and either keep the baby or have it adopted into a loving family, than to take what appears now to be the easier option of abortion. Sure, abortion takes care of your problem quickly, and no one needs to know about it, but have you considered how you will feel in years to come over the choice you made? Choose to give the gift of life to your baby, and you will never regret it.

An ultrasound picture of a baby around 10-12 weeks gestation

If you are living with the guilt of having already aborted a baby, I do not wish to condemn you or make you feel worse. You need to seek God’s forgiveness and healing, and you will then be enabled to forgive yourself. Please see the page on My Faith.

Open adoption means that you are allowed some access to your baby as he grows up. You are given profiles of different families and are given the choice of whom you adopt your baby out to. You can have photos and progress reports sent to you. In one case I know personally, the little boy was present at his birth mother’s wedding when he was 3 or 4 years old.

There are many different groups and agencies there to help you, should you decide to keep your baby yourself, from young mother’s support groups, to government financial assistance, to counsellors, to free baby clothing and more.

email Paulette: motheringadvice@gmail.com